Before going into a relationship, which is more important?

Knowing What you want?

Or
Knowing what you DON'T want?

Hak the Panda: neither, u should be open to the person you're with and open with them, knwo a little of both and be open abto it, make compromises, work it out, or not knowing any of either, either way is fine, tis' a learning process.

 

 

 

Zhule: wow that's really hard actually. i would say knowing what you don't want. when you go in with a set list of things you want, you set your partner up on a pedestal and throw large rocks at them to see if they can handle it.

 
 
 
A Yahoo A User: What matters is finding what you need and what you can give.
 
 
Aly C.: stop thinking about that!! just get to know ppl!! if u focus on the wants n donts u'll never find the perfect person!!


"no busques a una persona perfecta, busca laperfeccion en las personas" i dont know how to say it in english but u can use google for it or something
good luck
merry xmas!
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Eleanor R: what you dont want.. i use this logic to avoid many disasterous relationships with girls. they may be cute, fun, funny, and outgoing. but the negatives of them being annoying, clingy, and dumb outweigh it..
if u think someone is beautiful but they annoy the **** out of you then why would u date them in the first place?

Royal Victory: I think knowing what you want is definately the most important thing. While it's also important to know what you don't want I think this is a huge stumbling block that the majority of us manage to fall over.

If for example if I don't want a man who's wealthy, tall, thin and opinionated well then the shortlisting process when it comes to a partner just became extreme! On the other hand if I want a man who's kind, average build and respectful of others feelings well then at least when you meet people you can look for guys with these qualities are makes selection SO much easier! :)

Another way of looking at it is if you want to meet someone you want to meet a guy who's got "good" qualities. If you have in your head what you don't want well then all a guy has to say is one of those "magic" words or look "that" way and he's gone from being a possible partner just because he's got those "negative" qualities that you've got in your head. If you can't see the positive things about a person in the first place well then you might as well stay single!
Myself, for example only have three things that I can't tolerate in a partner. These are the inability to admit that they may be wrong, believing that throwing around money will impress me (which it won't cause I can't be bought) and using a position of power to abuse or bully someone (I could never date a manager or supervisor!). With these three qualities in hand could you image how difficult it is to find a partner? It's not! In reality if these are the only three things I can't tolerate in a person the amount of qualities I can are endless! Me personally for some reason I'm attracted to guys who wear glasses (I think it has something to do with intelligence) but other than that i'm open to possiblities! :)
As for working on the rest I think you can adapt to situations. But bear in mind that when you meet someone and you don't like a part of them it doesn't mean they change. However, I have been in situations where I haven't liked a quality in a partner yet grown to love it. I don't know if this is possible with everybody but it worked for me :)

Anyway, I wish you the very best of luck and I hope everything works out for you :)

Gary: A relationship is all about learning and growing.

You can go out thinking, I wan this or that in partner.
But remember, the other person that's out looking is doing the same thing.
Whats important to find someone your comfortable with.
My partner and I have been together for a long time and we are still learning and growing together.
That's what make a Long Term Relationship special.
It's hard to explain what happens to two people with all that time invested in growing together.

I hope this helps.
Ashille: I'd say the primordial thing is knowing what you want and expect out of this relationship and also where your boyfriends stands and what does he expect out of this relationship too. Then you rightly say, you'd have to constantly work on the rest; everything isn't as rosy in real life as it is depicted in films. There are lots of compromises but being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to be a scapegoat either. Be happy!